Sweet Reconciliation

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With Thanksgiving & Christmas right around the corner, this is a topic that is close to my heart. I enjoy speaking and writing about this topic because I have been given the opportunity to reconcile with friends and family, in a way that I could only give God the glory.

 

Have you tasted Reconciliation?

Have you reconciled with your son/daughter? With your spouse? With your parents? God? Have you reconciled with a previous supervisor, or with an old friend? Have you healed, forgiven and been able to reconcile?

If you have, you know how sweet a feeling it is.

Reconciliation is a gift that is earned but also given. Reconciliation takes two. I think that is why, reconciliation is one of the sweetest feelings. Reconciliation is team work, it is mutual effort.

Surely it is not easy, but it is entirely worth it.

I can think of many many stories of reconciliation I have heard of, related to, and participated in. I am sure you have too. I can also think of many stories that are still in the process.I am sure you can too.

One of my personal reconciliation stories includes one of the most important persons in my life. Not easy. I know there were many years that went by with bitterness & resentment in both of our hearts. There were many ugly feelings, and I knew they were not right- yet I felt helpless. It seemed to me as I could not change my feelings even if I tried. After what felt like a long while we were able (all the glory to God) to work towards forgiveness, and reconciliation followed soon thereafter. What a sweet feeling. It is so peaceful. Of course our relationship is not perfect but we have learned to nurture a caring relationship.

I am sure you know of the greatest story of reconciliation ever written…right?

  • It was a perfect relationship. Adam & Eve walked with God. Eden was a perfect place.
  • The relationship was broken. We gave into a lie, doubted God and followed after human desires and pride. There was guilt, shame, and consequences.
  • Still Stubborn. God continued to care for His people. He sent prophets, sent the law, made promises, and performed miracles. Yet we continued to walk the other way.
  • God made a way to reconcile us back to him. Jesus came to the world, became one of us, and embodied the Kingdom for us to see. Defeated Sin. We are freed from sin, and are given purpose. He calls us to be his disciples.
  • But, will you follow? Jesus is calling. Have you answered? Jesus invites us to follow Him. Just as he called Matthew, Peter, Andrew…etc. He is also calling you.

    But you know this already: it is not easy.

 

Here is where the story changes for each of us. Some follow Jesus, and others haven’t. Reconciliation is offered to all, but not responded by all.

Following Jesus takes action. We are to follow him in all his ways. We are NOT EXPECTED to be perfect at it. In fact, it is a given no one will be perfect at it. Hence, grace & forgiveness- sweet gifts. God already knows we will fail often, but what counts is that we continue to willingly choose and surrender to Him. That we are continuously being molded by Him.

The same is true for us in our broken earthly relationships. We will not be perfect at it. It is work, it is a challenge, but it is a given that you must extend and receive grace & forgiveness in order to get there. We all naturally make mistakes, we will have moments where it seems near impossible. What counts is to not give up, as Jesus did not give up on you.

I didn’t think I would find reconciliation with many of my broken relationships, including God. But when I did, let me tell you it is no doubt one of the greatest gifts and experiences I have ever had.

 

That sweet feeling reconciliation brings is worth all your effort.

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When Wounds Run Deep: an exploration of feelings

Wounds.

What just jumped into your mind when you read that? Maybe you thought of one particular situation that you are in now… or maybe you thought of a variety of circumstances and situations you’ve been through in the past… OR maybe you thought of someone you know who is going through a terrible time, and you have been there to support them.

Most of us know what wounds are like. They are nasty, painful, confusing and annoying. The emotions they provoke in us are anger, hurt, guilt and impatience. We struggle because we want to hurt back but we know better. Therefore what usually happens is that we try to run from all our bad thoughts & feelings… but all that does is increase our GUILT.

Whether you are the offender, or the offended, guilt catches up to you one way or the other. As the offender you feel guilty because of your actions, and as the offended you feel guilty because of your thoughts & desires.

Another emotion that both sides are feeling is anger. The offended person is angry because of what has happened to them. On the other side, the offender also feels angry because they feel misunderstood. As anger increases… guess what? Guilt continues to grow... and continuous feelings of guilt causes ANXIETY.

Guilt destroys us. Guilt makes us feel hopeless, weak, and alone. As we continue to feel a turmoil of negative emotions, we are lead to guilt and as guilt continues to build… we end up in a state of deep nervousness & anxiety. We are wounded, deeply wounded.

Anxiety. You have read all the blogs about anxiety right? If you haven’t yourself experienced deep levels of anxiety, you are blessed. Anxiety feels like a total loss of control over our emotions, thoughts and behavior. Anxiety is exhausting, and it makes us feel like there is no way out.

In cases where both sides of the conflict are sorry, anxiety can be the end result for both sides. Each side feels hurt, angry, guilt and anxious.

Both persons are struggling, and both are wounded. Both sides seek for peace, and forgiveness. I am not proposing a solution to conflicts in this blog, but merely and exploration of feelings & emotions people experience while on either side of a conflict.

Here is a wise analogy I heard about a week ago, “emotional wounds are not much different than physical wounds. Some wounds superficial, others are deep. When we get a scratch, the pain is less and the healing is speedy. For larger wounds, pain is deeper and healing takes longer. Some wounds leave scars, others don’t. The scars may no longer cause any pain, but they are reminders of the time of when the hurt happened. However, even though some wounds leave scars, some scars completely fade after 5, 10, 20+ years later. All wounds are different, all wounds HEAL differently.”

For wounds to heal properly, patience & care is key.

 

 

Review on Ningxia Red from YL

This month I ordered a different product from Young Living that I’ve been saving up for a while: NINGXIA RED. The first time I had it, I was immediately hooked. I could drink this forever..

FullSizeRender-6These are some of the main reasons why I loved Ningxia Red:

  • PRACTICAL. I don’t have to drive to the grocery store,  or clean up the kitchen, I don’t have to even wash any cups!! You can buy Ningxia Red in individual packets. Just like Caprisuns, throw the box in the fridge and grab as you need.
  • DELICIOUS. If you like juice, this will be your favorite vitamin and dietary supplement. It tastes like concentrated smoothie from Jamba Juice. I call it my adult caprisun.
  • IT DIDN’T GET OLD. I have tried gummy vitamins & chocolate vitamins and I have enjoyed them for maybe a week and then got tired of the taste. I think it was because tho they tasted fine, they still didn’t taste just like candy… they were more so like funky candy and that was not something I really craved… But, the flavors of ningxia red did not get old, in fact after a whole month I’m sure like I liked it even better than the first time.
  • Great for ALL AGES & GENDERS. I know my friends with kids share their Ningxia Red with their whole family. It is not specific to any age, therefore it can be a family routine. It was for us! My husband and I would keep tabs on each other and would drink it together after exercise.

Because of these reasons I never forgot to take my daily vitamin, not even once! I cannot say the same thing of my multivitamin pills I got around 2012..

If you already use Ningxia Red, what is your favorite part about it? Have you noticed a difference?

If you would like to try Ningxia Red, make sure you chill it in the fridge first & that you shake it well. Let me know if I can help you get some in your hands.

 

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Micaela’s Curry

My dear food-lovers, I will share with you my made-up curry recipe! In my opinion it tastes amazing and can be tweaked in so many ways! FOR THE RECORD, I will admit that I have never truly learned how to make any type of “curry” or followed any curry recipe. So, if you are a curry expert this may be SO FAR from how to actually make some original curry. Again, this is MY VERSION of curry so don’t judge.

I actually made up this curry recipe as a way to get rid of all the random vegetables I had in my fridge that day. So, each time Ive made this recipe I have used different vegetables…

 

You will need:

  1. 4 cubed chicken breasts
  2. 1 TBS of minced garlic
  3. chicken broth
  4. 3 TBS of curry powder (or more, add to taste)
  5. 1/2 tbs or cayenne red pepper
  6. 1/2 of turmeric
  7. 1 diced onion (if you don’t love onions try half)
  8. 2 stalks of celery
  9. 1 cup of chopped carrots
  10. 4 TBS of diced green pepper (optional)
  11. 1 cup of shredded cabbage
  12. 3 TBS of chopped cilantro
  13. 1 cup of half & half (or if you have, coconut milk)
  14. Salt & pepper to taste.

Here is how to do it:

  1. In a pot, cook the chicken with some oil, the garlic and pepper to taste. Cook until it is browned, for 15-20 minutes. Stir often.
  2. Add to this some chicken broth enough to cover the chicken and more, approximately 4-5 cups. Let boil, and add the curry, the Turmeric, the Cayenne Pepper, green pepper, onions & carrots. And also add the half & half (or coconut milk). Stir often.
  3. After it has boiled 10 minutes add the the celery & cabbage and let boil for 5 minutes and turn off.
  4. Add salt to taste. Stir.
  5. Add the cilantro as it is served.

You can eat this curry with RICE or PASTA! It is delish and a great way to get rid of the veggies in your fridge before they go bad.  You can make this same recipe with any meat, including shrimp, fish & beef.

 

 

 

DIY thieves creamer

Hello friends! The other day I decided to spice up my coffee by using the oils that came in my premium starter kit.
Here is what I put in this delicious creamer I love:

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– 2 cups of half and half

– 2-5 drops of thieves YL essential oil (add to taste) I personally used 3 drops but it since thieves is pretty spicy it’s up to you!

– 1/2 teaspoon of organic vanilla extract.
Mix and enjoy with your coffee or black tea.

If you like some sweet you can add sugar to your creamer or just to your cup of coffee as you like. You can also sprinkle some coco powder if chocolate is your thing. It’s very tweakable!

I found this bottle at dollar general & it’s pretty handy for creamer:

HOPE YOU ENJOY IT, and most importantly support your immune system with the amazing qualities of this blend.

Join my oily journey!

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DIY Mouthwash

I have been trying to discover ways to save money by simplifying my life. I have gotten rid of clutter by cleaning my closet, clearing my storage room and by making the best practical and financial use of what I already have. As you may have already read, I am currently discovering and learning about essential oils. I hope that the investment I made with Young Living pays off and helps me save some cash with a bonus of making natural products.

I’ve been out of mouthwash for a week, and haven’t really remembered to get any… So I looked up some DIY’s for mouthwash considering I got the oils to experiment with anyway. Didn’t have to spend a single penny!

Here’s what I used:

  • 2 cups of filtered or boiled water (let cool)
  • 2 tbs of baking soda
  • 8 drops of YL peppermint essential oil
  • 4 drops of YL thieves essential oil (this is optional- for sensitive mouths use 1-2 drops)
  • 2 drops of YL lemon essential oil
  • 5 drops of YL spearmint essential oil

MIX in a container and its ready to use!

I LOVED IT!

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DIY Make-Up Primer that works!

Growing up I had heard about make-up primer, concealer…etc and other make up products that I never did buy or use because I think make up is already expensive as it is and I did not want to pay for any other “extras” that I did not consider as essential.

However, after I got out of college and had more time to spend on cooking, beauty, and crafts I started to notice that any make-up I used would totally fade out by the end of the day.  I knew that there was a solution to this… but I did not want to pay for it and specially considering I hadn’t even tried it to see if it works on me. On average make up primer can cost $15 if you are willing to buy from a reliable brand, which is what I prefer to do in hopes that it is something that will actually work.

Just before I bought it I thought I would look up some DIY recipes on Pinterest just to see if any of them actually looked good, because I’ve already had a few DIY fails including DIY shaving cream. The only ingredient I did not have was “aloe vera” and it cost under $5. So I gave it a try, and it is AWESOME.

I did not exactly follow any of the recipes I found, but I tweaked them to what I thought looked and felt good and that is what I recommend doing. You want to get a smooth, but not watery consistency- similar to the consistency of aloe.

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In a container MIX:

  • 2 TBS of facial moisterizer  (I particularly prefer Neutrogena because it just does wonders to my type of skin and it comes with sunscreen, however, you may have your own that you prefer. Whatever facial moisterizer you like you can use, some are water based and others oil based)
  • 2-4 TBS of Aloe Vera Gel (This is the CORE ingredient- I have heard you can JUST use aloe as a primer too)
  • 5-10 drops of liquid foundation (This is to give color to your primer, it is helpful but not necessary. It is helpful if you’d like to wear make-up primer as a quick option)
  • 1/3-1/4 tbs of foundation powder (I really think this was an important ingredient as it helps the primer be less watery and gives it a unique consistency)
  • 1 drop of frankincense or tea tree essential oil (This is optional but great! I use frankincense on my face, it has helped my face clear and brighten. Plus it smells super nice. Tea tree essential oil can also help heal blemishes, just keep in mind that  different skins react different to different oils so for a while you may find yourself figuring out what your face likes)
  • Mix until the consistency feels right and is easily absorbed by your skin. Do not add any oils like almond, or coconut unless you have SUPER dry skin, the moisturizer usually is good enough.

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When using this primer you must let it absorb for a few minutes before you apply foundation- and don’t forget to put some in your eye lids too, it works wonders! I can’t believe how much longer my make-up lasts. It is a very cheap option, that can be alternated and made as natural as you like depending on the make-up/moisturizer that you choose.

 

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Enroll with this link: http://yl.pe/39tp
For any questions, comments you have have feel free to comment hear or email me at bmstaudenmaier@gmail.com